“Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can share its joy.”Proverbs 14:10 NIV
In the middle of your grief, stress, sadness, has some well meaning person ever said to you “I know just how you feel” ?
I believe most people are trying to help, but they don’t understand how damaging and dismissive that phrase is. The truth is found here in Proverbs 14:10. No one can truly know or under our bitterness (sorrow) or really feel and enjoy our joy, quite like we do in our own hearts.
What to do with that person who constantly projects their own life and troubles when all you are trying to do is share yours?
1. Forgive them – the most likely don’t realize how what they are doing is not helpful
2. Kindly explain to them why it’s not helpful. “When you jump in with yourself own story, I fell like you are not listening and caring about mine.”
3. Find someone else to share your heart. People will get the drift when fewer people confide in them. They don’t have anyone’s confidence.
One last thing: unlike your average Jane or Joe, there is someone who can understand our every hurt. His name is Jesus and he’s just a prayer away.